I think I know what the problem is.

I think.

My T1's are set to immediate, specifically FXO Kewlstart, and the ACS T1 card is looking for wink signaling. The line settings say E&M Wink all over them, and you can't change it. So I have to change the signaling from my asterisk box from FXOKS (yes fxo- its backwards in asterisk) to EM_W.

If and when I figure it out, I'll report back.